Posted at 18:31h
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Intimacy entails two processes: self-confrontation and then self-disclosure. That is it! Nothing more. It is not about the response your partner gives you. It is not about your partner reciprocating and sharing.
Posted at 18:29h
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What controls whether or not you can make improvements in any tough situation? What controls whether or not you can make changes in your relationship or your sexual relationship?
Posted at 18:06h
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Couples today expect more out of sex and intimacy than in any point in history. Current divorce rates highlight how rarely our expectations are fulfilled.
Posted at 00:26h
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There is an ancient story in which a Roman woman comes up to a rabbi and asks, “What does your God do now that he has created the world?”
Posted at 00:26h
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Who doesn’t want control? Most of us want control. In fact control and power fights are rampant in relationships. You will see them frequently in therapy.
Posted at 00:26h
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Do you follow ALL the customs of your culture? Most of us are selective. I hold dear some of the values from my Greek background. We tend to select from our culture’s values, customs, and behaviors that support our own patterns whether they are healthy or problematic.
Posted at 00:26h
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More people seek therapy for marital and relationship difficulties than any other problems (Verhoff, Kulka, & Douvan, 1981). In fact as many as 70% of therapists in the U.S. and abroad treat couples as part of their practice (Orlinsky et. al, 1999).
Posted at 00:26h
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We don’t go through a process of differentiation only once; it’s a continual process in our relationship. In truth, as we become closer and closer to our partner and more at risk of losing them (if they died or something happened to the relationship), it takes a lot of differentiation to tolerate that.
Posted at 00:26h
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Bowen emphasized the self-development of the therapist. He was the first family theorist to maintain that it is hard for a client to mature past the maturity level of the therapist NO matter how good his or her techniques or skills. Differentiation of the therapist IS technique.
Posted at 00:26h
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Many therapists try and help couples have sex. But many people can have sex and feel nothing! You can have sex monthly or 2.3 times a week for that matter, but so what?
