06 Jul What Determines Whether You Change Your Life?
What controls whether or not you can make improvements in any tough situation? What controls whether or not you can make changes in your relationship or your sexual relationship?
It’s not the extent of your difficulties or how long you have had the problems. What will determine whether you get through your tough life issue is whether you will do what needs to be done! You have to be willing to do things that you once said were too frightening or too tough. You have to be willing to do things you think would make you feel too vulnerable. To really make a change in self (or in your relationship), you have to really get out there and do something you thought was beyond you! Most of us just want to make a little step or a one time move and test it out and see if our partner/parent/friend reciprocates or changes. That approach doesn’t work.
You have to maintain doing something significant. You have to be willing to endure temporary uneasiness and anxiety. Try doing something that is not typical of you and see how that gives you more confidence and self respect.